A fundamental question…..

Monisha from K… village writes : “I like Badaga cultural……I loved one boy very sincerely but we didnot have “morai”.We departed [as we could not marry].We want to change this [custom] alone….”

Yes, Monisha, you have raised a fundamental question….this custom of ‘morai’ was followed by Badagas in the olden days when there were not many Badagas and  to avoid marriage between very close relatives – literally brothers and sisters. This made  plenty of sense, medically also. But over a period of time, this particular ‘custom’ seems to have met with a lot of ‘heart burning’, may be due to its ‘blind’ adherence. Or does morai still make a valid condition for marriage ….more in a detailed article soooon…Wg Cdr JP

Deepak [Kethorai] replies : After going [thro’] some of the customs of our culture,I m sure there is a meaning for every custom and practice that our ancestors followed. But to us it seems different and difficult (I guess) to tag on to those customs into our today’s life style. Even I am eager to know the answer for the question and to know more about the custom of “Morai”………

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Shiva adds : I am 27 and into buisness and I have seen many communities all over india. I feel what is said about ‘morai’ is bad and before having an affair with someone peoplel must know about our ‘Morai’. One more thing is that, now a days many Badaga girls running behind other community boys (not only before marriage as well as after marriage); if, things go as it is our community wil get perish soon. A small adivice of mine for our good (soft) girls.. I have seen many Badaga girls who have gone behind other community ppl, nobody seems to be having a good life. So be patient and get married according to our parents wish… Am also unmarried and plz note, its not ‘Ottai Kichu’. Boys can also run behind other community girls but for ‘Sothu Soga’ and ‘Mana Mariyadai’, we are hesitating to do. Girls, please pick up the right choice (rich or poor doesnt matter and please marry our boys and help our community retrieve the good name soon)

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5 responses to “A fundamental question…..

  1. I want to share something ‘morai’. I know about morai but only 50%. In future, will this be followed by our younger generation? All our elders are well settled in villages and had and having a good life,so they are aware of morai, but this generation people are not settled in hatties, many are out of our native place, then how come it will be possible to follow “morai” in future? My conclusion is marrying within our own village (brothers and sisters)is not acceptable. So, elders should consider marrying within a seemai. – Hetthaya makka.

    Yes, your questions are very valid. If we do not want Badagas marrying from/to ‘outside’, the restrictions posed by outdated rules should be removed. The earlier we do that, it is better for our community. – Wg Cdr JP.

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  2. The question raised by Monisha was very sensible. The fact is that “morai” that our great grandfathers made was perfect. In olden days if you hear about our badaga history you can clearly understand.There were four or five brothers from two or three family who dispersed to different bettas and formed different hattys. So only they kept morai for marriage within this bettas. If you have morai with one hatty for marriage restriction then it means your hatty persons and another hatty persons(where you wish to marry) are brothers in relations. So its must that you need to give up your desire and follow the morai. No one can marry a boy or girl who is a brother or sister in relation. Its idiotic.So Monisha, please give up your love for our culture and all the best for the future.

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  3. Its our tradition.We cant change it.We have to follow those customs..

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  4. I am 27 and into buisness and I have seen many communities all over india. I feel what is said about ‘morai’ is bad and before having an affair with someone peoplel must know about our ‘Morai’. One more thing is that, now a days many Badaga girls running behind other community boys (not only before marriage as well as after marriage); if, things go as it is our community wil get perish soon. A small adivice of mine for our good (soft) girls.. I have seen many Badaga girls who have gone behind other community ppl, nobody seems to be having a good life. So be patient and get married according to our parents wish… Am also unmarried and plz note, its not ‘Ottai Kichu’. Boys can also run behind other community girls but for ‘Sothu Sogam’ and ‘Mana Mariyadai’, we are hesitating to do. Girls Plz pik up the right choice (rich or poor doesnt matter, please marry our boys and help our community to retrieve the good name soon).

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  5. After going [thro’] some of the customs of our culture,I m sure there is a meaning for every custom and practice that our ancestors followed. But to us it seems different and difficult (I guess) to tag on to those customs into our today’s life style. Even I am eager to know the answer for the question and to know more about the custom of “Morai”………

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